Dwight Hobbes

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Time to take care of business

Keith-&-Lesli

Keith sat there much relieved watching TV with Sam gently snoring on his shoulder. Sorely tempted, but relieved. And nibbled pretzels.

Once he was sure she was asleep, Keith eased out from under her. Went over to the bed and quietly picked up the guitar. Did an old jam his dad had taught him. An hysterical old ditty by Jim Croce. Continue Reading →

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Samantha throws Keith a curve

Keith-&-Lesli

Luis had got lucky. Keith and Sam sat back, looked at each other and took another break. Passing the tequila back and forth. Keith got up off the sofa and went to go see what was in Luis’ fridge.

Sam turned the television on. Got The Beverly Hillbillies and sat there, idiotically mesmerized. “Hey,” Keith called, “got some roast beef in here, swiss cheese, tomatoes and, let’s see, what else…” Continue Reading →

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Keith, Luis and Sam get up on the get down

Keith-&-Lesli

Keith shook himself out recollections of Lesli and the beauty shop and gave up trying to sleep. Had nothing better to do than ring Luis’ room. His buddy answered, “Yeah?”

“What y’ doin’? Bored to my bones. Let’s play.”

“Cool. Come on down. I’m in—”

“I know what room you in. Be there in a minute.” Continue Reading →

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Know the difference between devotion and obsession

 

There’s an old, beautifully written song that soul immortal Jerry Butler made famous, “Never Gonna Give You Up.” The refrain goes, “Never gonna give you up/no matter how you treat me/Never gonna give you up/So, don’t you think of leaving.” Listening to it sung, especially when it’s sung well — the Black Keys recently released a nice cover — it is a heroic sentiment. In practice, it can be dangerous behavior. The expression “I can’t live without you” is supposed to be just that: a romantic figure of speech. News headlines historically tell story after story of sad cases where someone took that idea of never giving up all too literally. You do not want to wind up as one of those stories. Continue Reading →

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Dealing with that first date

First dates: inevitable as death and taxes. Unless, of course, you like living lonely. And don’t come with baloney about you’re perfectly content being single. You’ve made your peace with it, sure, and are comfortable keeping your company. But, don’t tell me you don’t sometimes daydream about being just as comfortable with someone wonderful keeping your company, too. Continue Reading →

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Lesli and Keith get back to their lives — with a twist

When Lesli dropped that “Just decided to keep it” bomb, Keith couldn’t believe she hadn’t at least talked with him before making up her mind. And told her so. On the one hand, yes, it’s her body. On the other, that was him in there, too. He glared out the window. “Don’t sulk.”

“Ain’t sulkin’.”

“Are so. You’re angry because I didn’t consult you before coming to a conclusion. And I don’t blame you. Sue me. I should’ve said something and, for once, kept my opinion to myself.”

“Picked a hell of a time to do that.”

“You didn’t want me to —” She leaned close, so the driver wouldn’t hear. “You didn’t want me to have an abortion, did you?”

“Hell no!” At that the driver did glance at them in his mirror. She nestled close. “Good.”

This woman, he thought, is going to drive me off a cliff. They got to the station and, even out here, someone recognized him. A pretty little strawberry blonde, probably about 16, sat with what likely were her parents and older brother. Gawking. Then walked over in something that resembled a trance. Keith and Lesli were trying to figure out when they would next see each other when Lesli noticed the girl. Standing a few feet away. Continue Reading →

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Treating Black men means healing Black women

Black Men Healing Conference focuses on sexual exploitation
 
By Dwight Hobbes

Contributing Writer

There are a great many programs and projects to aid Black women and improve life for Black youth, aimed at empowering socially embattled sistahs to overcome obstacles and salvage youngsters from circumstances that lead to dead-end futures. Regrettably, when it comes to Black men, little is said or done that isn’t limited to keeping them from going back to jail or prison, which makes this year’s Sixth Annual Community Empowerment Through Black Men Healing Conference a must-attend event. The conference primarily concerns itself with filling that void for men. Importantly, it’s grounded in the understanding that healing Black men doesn’t happen in a vacuum, that Black women’s well-being inextricably is involved. Heading up the Black Men Healing Conference (www.brothershealing.com) is the founding organizer, renowned behavioral consultant Samuel Simmons. Continue Reading →

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