‘Before I Forget’ a loving reminder of a serious ailment

Kam-Williams15“Restaurateur, magazine publisher, celebrity chef and nationally-known lifestyle maven B. Smith is struggling at 66 with a tag she never expected to add to that string: Alzheimer’s patient… Part memoir, part caregiver’s guide, this work is a unique entry on the Alzheimer’s shelf.

Crafted in short chapters that interweave [B. and husband Dan’s] narrative with practical and helpful advice, readers learn about dealing with the day-to-day challenges of Alzheimer’s, family realities and tensions, ways of coping, and coming research that may tip the scale, as well as lessons learned along the way.

At its heart, Before I Forget is a love story illuminating a love of family, life and hope.”  —Excerpted from the book jacket

Courtesy of amazon.com
Courtesy of amazon.com

Barbara Elaine Smith was born on August 24, 1949 in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania to Florence and William, a maid and a steelworker, respectively. The darling little daughter would grow up to do her parents proud, embarking on a series of phenomenally successful professional careers.

She started out as a model, becoming the first African American to grace the cover of Mademoiselle. The talented Renaissance woman parlayed that success into endorsement deals and her own nationally-syndicated TV show, B. Smith with Style.

She would also launch her own product line, publish a magazine and several cookbooks, and open restaurants in Manhattan, Washington, D.C. and out on Sag Harbor. With the help of her husband, Smith built such a formidable business empire that she became widely known as “The Black Martha Stewart.”

Unfortunately, upon consulting a doctor a couple of years ago because of a nagging forgetfulness, she received the devastating diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer’s. Although she and her husband Dan Gasby have since reordered their priorities, the two have steadfastly refused to allow the disease to either crush their spirits or diminish their love for each other. As Smith puts it, “I’m still myself. I just can’t remember things as well as I once did.”

In Before I Forget she and Gasby share their inspirational message of hope while issuing a rallying cry to the African American community, which suffers from Alzheimer’s at over twice the rate of Whites. The autobiography primarily focuses on the last five years of Smith’s life, although it does devote a few chapters to earlier periods, including her childhood in Pennsylvania.

However, the thrust of the book is to kick start a frank conversation about Alzheimer’s from recognizing the warning signs, to identifying its stages, to reciting lesson’s learned thus far. Above all, the memoir is a reaffirmation of a couple’s undying love, as evidenced by Gasby’s waxing romantic with, “I am so grateful for the honor and pleasure of your company, and for the privilege of sharing your life.”


Before I Forget: Love, Hope, Help, and Acceptance in Our Fight Against Alzheimer’s will be available for purchase January 19, 2016.

Visit amazon.com to order a copy. Kam Williams welcomes reader responses to kam_williams@hotmail.com.