Dear Auntie: What is your take on living with your partner?


Hello, nieces and nephews, it’s Dear Auntie here in 2021 ready to have real conversations about issues that arise in day-to-day relationships.

Each column, I will answer readers’ burning life questions with insight only Dear Auntie can dish out! Remember, you can take or leave my advice, but I hope I’ve at least provided some food for thought.

This week’s question: What is your take on living with your partner?

Dear Auntie:

What is your take on living with your partner? I personally believe in space, but society says that if you truly love someone, you should be content with living with them.

I don’t think I’m faking my love, but I do not agree with those views. What is your opinion? What do you think I should do about this? 

Signed, Intelligence Analysis Major

Dear Intelligence Analysis Major:

Auntie’s view is that honesty is always the best policy when it comes to your relationships. The first thing you need to know is that everyone has the right to live their lives as they see fit. 

Dear Auntie does not know your society. The society I know is equated with Beyonce’s saying, “put a ring on it.”

I have learned from experience that when you are about to make a significant decision, like moving in with your partner, you have to think long and hard. A great place to start would be, looking at the pros and cons of moving in with a person.

If you are questioning any decision that you have made, you can always change your mind. It’s a women’s prerogative.

You can love someone without feeling that you have to live together. Sometimes, we women move too fast when we feel love. Take time to have conversations about your feelings. Be honest with your partner to eliminate distrust. You and your partner have to make sure that you keep society out of your business.

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