Author found healing in sharing traumatic experience

Some longtime KMOJ listeners may already know media personality Lisa Moy. But for those who don’t, let me introduce her to you. 

Moy loves music but radio is her passion, and she has been working in Twin Cities radio for 12 years. She started at KMOJ and worked there for about seven years (morning show and mid-days) before transitioning to Go 95.3, where she worked until the station was sold during the pandemic. Now Moy works at the Graves Foundation, which is focused on closing equity gaps and improving the lives of young people. 

Moy has been writing poetry and short stories and journaling since she was a child. In 2022, her years of writing resulted in her first book “November.” 

Moy told the MSR that she chose the title because the experience that the book is centered on happened in November—Friday, November 13, 2015, to be exact. On that day, Moy suffered an ectopic pregnancy.

Most women keep problems pregnancies a secret and just move on because no one knows they are pregnant. It wasn’t that easy for Moy because she had never thought about becoming a mom in the first place. 

She was in denial at first, but then she embraced the idea of becoming a mother and thought maybe it was meant to be. But as soon as she warmed up to the idea, the opportunity was taken away from her.

“I have always been family-oriented,” Moy said. “I love my mama, sister, daddy, and now my niece. When I informed my family [of the pregnancy], they were very supportive.” 

Moy says her intentions were not to put out a book to tell people how strong she was. “Most people who have read the book said I was a strong person. I was not prepared for the feedback I’m receiving. People are saying I was strong, but I didn’t feel that way as I was writing.”

However, Moy did find strength in sharing her experience. “The book was like a healing process—writing about the experience was therapeutic,” she said. “I’m at a point in my life where I can actually discuss what happened to me without breaking down, falling apart, or being overly emotional.”

Unfortunately, Moy is not with the same partner she was with at the time she wrote the book. But her advice to men is to be patient with a partner who has had issues with their pregnancy and have empathy; if you don’t know or want to know something, ask questions. 

Show support, but if the woman is not ready to talk, respect that. Share her space and give her time.

Moy encourages women who are experiencing the trauma of an ectopic pregnancy, or any health issue, to educate themselves and know their options. She said women should get a better understanding of what they need and do their own research, since women of color often do not get the same medical care as others. 

Moy thought the best way to have more creative rights was to independently publish the book. “I’m new to the publishing game and do not know what it entails. I am learning as I go,” she said.

Today, Moy is strong and optimistic and says she has more endeavors on the horizon. Once she found her voice, she made sure to use it as a platform, and she is thankful for all the support.  

People who are interested in purchasing “November” can get a copy at Amazon.com. To learn more, follow her on social media @LisaMoy or visit her website at itslisamoy.com.